There is a common saying that people love to use that says men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Whoever came up with this slogan was probably frustrated with the shopping tendencies of women. I have to admit that I fall into this category as well, and it is hard for me to go to the store and pick one thing and leave. Men are perfectly okay, going to the store, picking what they want, and heading out. Women, on the other hand, end up spending hours even if they just wanted to pick one item. Perhaps it has something to do with the wiring of our brain.
According to scientists, an adult makes at least 35,000 conscious decisions daily. It is not clear whether this is a male adult or a female adult, but that can be a debate for another day. There are a lot of similarities between life and shopping. One of the things that they both have in common is the power of choice.
The ability to make sound decisions is one of the things that separate humans from other species on the planet. Sadly, not everyone exercises their power of choice, and that means they do not get to enjoy life’s treasures. While making wrong choices has disastrous consequences, learning how to make the right choice, and thriving because of making the right choice gives the soul a lot of freedom.
Success has many definitions. I particularly like the definition of success by Earl Nightingale. He defines success as the pursuit of a worthy ideal.
“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”Martin Luther King Jr.
What does pursuing a worthy ideal mean? Here is my take concerning shopping.
1. Your Ultimate Aim
There are times when I have gone shopping, and when I got home, I realized that there are several things that I needed that did not make it on the purchased items. The shopping experience can be very distracting.
There are new products to try out, deals to take advantage of, and the temptation of the aesthetic appeal. (I know I am guilty of this one.)
To remember everything that I needed while shopping, I got in the habit of writing lists. When you write a shopping list, you free your mind from having to remember everything you need to get. Since we can only make 35,000 conscious decisions per day, I intend to utilize that decision-making process wisely. The use of lists ensures that your brain is not on overdrive, and you end up being productive.
So how does making lists relate to life? Well, for starters, if you want to do life shopping, then you need to figure out what you want out of life. Writing a list is similar to creating a vision, setting a life goal, or being intentional with life.
Narrowing down what you want from life will help to give you clarity. It will help you have focus despite the many distractions that life may bring your way.
The other thing about shopping is that you need a trolley to help you carry the items you are buying unless you are just picking one or two items. In most cases, bigger trolleys increase your capacity to carry more items.
In life, you need a trolley, and in the basic sense, it is your expectation. The capacity to be or do more with your life will depend on your expectation. If you want more, build your expectation.
Know your strength as well as your weakness and trust yourself enough to believe that you deserve good things. To pursue a worthy ideal, it is vital to increase your capacity.
Staying in one shopping aisle for a long time is a red flag. It may mean that you are having a hard time deciding what you want, or you are not sure what you want all together.
In life, progress causes growth, and ultimately happiness. When you know what you want, and strive to make a daily effort to pursue it, then you are deemed successful. The aim should be to be progressive towards reaching your goal.
Most successful people confess that success is not in the big things but the little things.
What can you do today to be better than who you were yesterday? It is about the small wins that lead to big wins.
4. Quality over Quantity
Over time I have learned that less is more. Having a few quality things that serve you well is more enriching for your life.
Are you enjoying quality or quantity?
Shopping can be a great experience. In most cases, you get to learn something new, there are several stalls to enjoy as you immerse yourself in different experiences, and if you are lucky, you will meet new people.
It is easy to see life in the same light as well. There are people to meet, tales to tell, lessons to learn, and a process that should be enjoyed and not endured.
Recently I read that emotions are a gift to humanity to help us understand where we are in life.
So do not shove your emotions to deal with them later. Take time to feel your emotions to figure out what life is teaching you.
What are you pursuing?
Until the next post, let your soul sing!